13.3.2 Marriage and the wedding blessing

The legal norms for marriage ceremonies, marital status, and divorce differ from country to country. They are subject to change as a reflection of constant shifts in society. The New Apostolic Church is a proponent of protection for marriage and family.

Receiving the marriage blessing of the Church is of great importance (see 12.2.3.1). Such a blessing can have many different effects: it provides strength for enduring love and fidelity, promotes the willingness and ability to serve, help, and understand one another, and it helps partners to forgive each other and reconcile differences. However, these effects can only take hold if a couple conducts themselves accordingly.

It is desirable for spouses to have a common agreement in matters of faith. Grasping God's word and grace, praying together, and making experiences of faith together will solidify the foundation of a marriage and strengthen a family. However, the mere fact that both spouses are Christians does not, in and of itself, constitute a guarantee for a harmonious marriage life.

Before marriage–particularly with a partner of a different culture, religion, or confession–all questions pertaining to their life together should be discussed and clarified in order to favour the success of the marriage.

Adultery is a grave breach of trust and a sin (see 5.3.7.2). Sincere remorse and repentance, willingness to forgive, and the grace of God can enable spouses to continue a marriage after adultery has occurred. The Church recommends exhausting all available means of stabilising and preserving a marriage.

If it comes to divorce, harmful statements and actions should be avoided. Especially toward the children from their marriage, the couple should display the kind of conduct that will allow the children to preserve the respect and affection for both parents in the future.

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